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Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ~Brian Tracy

This is an antidote to victimization. It establishes that you are seen and provided for.

The more you notice the truth of this principle, the less you will believe that you are a victim.

Looking around, it’s obvious that life is orderly. A bee flies from flower to flower, eating and pollinating in accordance with a magnificent, ordered scheme.

Millions of years of evolution have exquisitely matched bee and flower so that neither can exist without the other.

Why, then, do we believe that our own lives can’t be effortlessly sustained?

One major obstacle is that we see ourselves as victim. Our bodies are subject to aging and death. Accidents are unavoidable. Catastrophe and disaster looms just around the corner, controlled by a whimsical destiny. And simply imagining the terrible things that can happen to you brings as much suffering as the events themselves.

Being a victim is the logical result of being in constant danger. If God sustains us, then surely he must reverse this whole scheme of random accidents that puts everyone in peril.  This is a tricky point, however, because we are also surrounded by abundance in Nature.

Optimists point to our green earth overflowing with life, nourishment, and beauty.

However, can a loving God really supply us with life’s good things one day and pain the next?  Most people who feel grateful to God tend to deny that he is also responsible for disease, calamity, and death. Yet an all-knowing, all-powerful deity can’t be responsible for only part of what goes on. Either he sustains everything or nothing.

Gratitude helps you to grow and expand; gratitude brings joy and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you. ~Eileen Caddy

The way to escape from living under a God who brings pleasure one day and pain the next is to realize that God isn’t a person.

We only call God “he” because our minds resist thinking of God as a total abstraction.

In truth, being total, God has to be abstract. You can’t wrap your mind around the All. Instead, we wrap our minds around the things we notice, and choose to believe in.

To the extent that you notice God in your life, acknowledge him with gratitude. God doesn’t need to be thanked—after all; he already has everything, including thanks.

But by choosing gratitude you are selecting a benevolent aspect of the All on which you want to focus. The purpose of gratitude is to connect you to a higher vision of life.

Whatever you pay attention to will grow.

If you pay attention to those aspects of God that demonstrate love, truth, beauty, intelligence, order, and spiritual evolution, those aspects will begin to expand in your life.

Bit by bit, like a mosaic, disparate fragments of grace will merge to form a complete picture. Eventually this picture will replace the more threatening one you have carried around inside you since infancy.

The external world claims to be real, but it, too, is an image created in consciousness and projected outward. Once you realize that you alone are the projector of reality, you will no longer be dominated by external events. You will correct the mistake that lies at the very root of victimization: a belief that the movie controls you, instead of the other way around.

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Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end. ~Author Unknown

The celebration of Valentine’s Day is one of the best examples of polarity that there is on the planet.

When the male population was asked for their opinion of the holiday, their comments were generally the same in that their response was that they thought celebrating one day for “Love” was foolishness. They stated that they loved their partners every day and to make one day a holiday was ridiculous and simply a venue for marketers. On the other hand, women stated that they thought it was a ‘Lovely” idea and that receiving gifts and attention from their significant other was a wonderful thing to experience.

In addition, it’s a well-known fact that if the male does not make an effort to gift his woman, her feelings are hurt, she does not feel significant and she can and does draw the conclusion that “he” is selfish or an ass, or both.

The consequences of these thoughts by the feminine, spurs the act of thoughtfulness by the masculine on this day and the profits to the marketplace are HUGE. There is also the possibility of the “Third Side” which is …Give and you shall receive !

Esther Howland, the woman who produced the first commercial American valentines in the 1840s, sold a then mind-boggling $5,000 in cards during her first year of business. The valentine industry in the United States has been booming ever since.

Today, over 1 billion valentine cards are sent in this country each year…according to the Greeting Card Association. The happy day is also celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. Eighty-five percent of all valentines are purchased by Women. In addition to cards, there are billions of boxes of chocolates and bouquets of roses purchased mostly by Men for the February 14 holiday. . .The ironic part of this story is that the two names symbolizing this “Love” day, Valentine and Cupid, are names of MEN. How many of us actually know any history regarding why we celebrate February 14? Where did Valentine and Cupid come from anyway??

I don’t understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine’s Day.  When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon. ~Author Unknown

Cupid…everybody is familiar with the boy armed with bow and arrows who pierces Hearts. The arrows were aimed at the gods and humans alike and the wounds inspired Love or passion in every victim. These wounds produced desires and emotions causing them to fall deeply in Love.

Cupid was the son of Mercury, the winged messenger of the gods, and Venus, the goddess of Love and Beauty. He was sometimes portrayed wearing armor like that of Mars, the god of war, perhaps to suggest ironic parallels between warfare and romance or to symbolize the Invincibility of Love.  He was generally viewed as beneficent because of the Happiness he imparted to couples both mortal and immortal.

There is a very interesting story about Cupid and His mortal Bride Psyche in Roman mythology.

Venus was jealous of the beauty of Psyche, and ordered Cupid to punish the mortal. But instead, Cupid fell deeply in love with her. He took her as his wife, but as a mortal she was forbidden to look at him. Psyche was happy until her sisters persuaded her to look at Cupid. As soon as Psyche looked at Cupid, Cupid punished her by leaving her. Their lovely castle and gardens vanished too. Psyche found herself alone in an open field with no signs of other beings or Cupid. As she wandered trying to find her Love, she came upon the temple of Venus. Wishing to destroy her, the goddess of Love gave Psyche a series of tasks, each harder and more dangerous than the last. For her last task Psyche was given a little box and told to take it to the underworld. She was told to get some of the beauty of Proserpine, the wife of Pluto, and put it in the box. During her trip she was given tips on avoiding the dangers of the realm of the dead and was also warned not to open the box. But temptation overcame Psyche and she opened the box. Instead of finding beauty, she found deadly slumber. Cupid found her lifeless on the ground and quickly gathered the deadly sleep from her body and put it back in the box. Cupid forgave her, as did Venus. The gods, moved by Psyche’s love for Cupid, made her a goddess. Cupid has always played a role in the celebrations of Love and Lovers so it seems appropriate that he is the most famous of Love signs and Valentine symbols. Love is most frequently depicted by two hearts pierced by an arrow…Cupid’s arrow.

The “Valentine” part of this holiday came from the Catholic Church who recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome.

When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men.

Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

It is traditionally a day on which Lovers express their Love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery and sending greeting cards known as “valentines.”

The day first became associated with Romantic Love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of Courtly Love flourished. It was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, and was later deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI. Though no longer considered a Saint…Valentine is still the talk of the town…at least for today!!

So, here’s hoping that you Love and are Loved Every Day and that you and your Special Someone let each other know how very special each of you are to one another…not just today, Valentine’s Day, but Every Day.

Smell the beautiful flowers, taste the fabulous chocolate, smile and perhaps, even blush a little when you read the Loving Thoughts of your man or woman…Love is all there is and Love makes the world go ‘round.  Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Assumptions are the termites of relationships. ~Henry Winkler

“I love you.” - What an emotional high these three simple words can bring – if they are spoken from the Heart.

The thing is, some people have a difficult time saying it comfortably without the words tripping out of their mouths. You’d think they’ll morph and turn into ogres, the way they squirm and go around beating the bush before finally saying the words. Then there are also those who openly say the words but don’t really mean it.

Nevertheless, it doesn’t matter if they do or don’t say the words. What matters is that a relationship remains honest and happy.

What are the things that make a relationship work anyway? The same factors work for all kinds of relationship.

Whether it’s a relationship between lovers, among family members, friends, office workers, and business partners, the same foundations apply for it to work. If a pillar is missing, the whole thing crumbles.

Three pillars make up the foundation. We call the three Pillars: The Relationship Tripod. Each will be discussed in length in the proceeding paragraphs.

The Companionship Leg

First, it must be understood that a relationship requires at least two people for it to exist, let alone work. You must be visible to the other person. If the relationship is long distance, you must at least feel that the other one is there. It won’t do any good to take the other’s existence for granted and count on the other to check up on you. You must also show compassion. If you keep up the show of indifference, it just spells failure. The other person needs to sense your feelings for them. Show them kindness, gentleness, sensitivity – anything that shows you care for them. It’s not that hard to say “I’m always here for you,” is it? Whoever receives this show of affection must give something back. Everyone must do his or her part in a relationship because it’s a give and take condition.

The Compromise Leg

In the end, who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely. ~Robert Brault

As mentioned earlier, a relationship is a give and take situation. Not all people are made alike; even if two people are so uncannily similar, there might still exist small differences that could spark an argument. This is why an agreement has to be reached on every argument, whether petty or vital. All kinds are important, especially when it comes to a relationship. Someone has to win and someone has to give in. This is why the discussion of differences is so essential. Discuss the disparity: What is the problem? Why is it a problem? Who should compromise and adjust to the problem? All these should be resolved. Conceding sometimes doesn’t make you a loser; rather, it goes to show how important a relationship is to you. “I guess you’re right.” These words could be the balm of your disputes.

The Communication Leg

Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings. ~Miles Franklin

There would be no discussion of differences, no showing of affection, and no saying of words without communication. This third and last leg is probably the most vital in a relationship. It enables us to know what the other party feels and what is needed to make the partnership work. It gives us the ability to say the words that are wanted and needed. In short, the other two legs won’t happen if the last one isn’t present. Just a small act of communication could go a long way in improving a relationship.

You can do simple things like writing a small note on a piece of paper, or writing short emails at least occasionally. Do something to give truth to your existence and your relationship. Don’t take this for granted, because a lot of relationships crumble due to lack of any contact. Take the long distance relationship, for instance. A lot fail, but some succeed because they contact each other almost every day. Even business associates keep contact by sending each other progress reports.

Any form of relationship is like a box of chocolates, as Forrest Gump puts it.

Some tastes good and some don’t. Overall, the experience of having a box of chocolates gives you a good feeling because eating each and every piece of chocolate gives an experience – an experience of bitterness, sweetness, or even bitter-sweetness. You may not get every flavor that you desire in a box.

So if you are looking for a relationship that is easy on the heart and mind, get ready for the harsh reality. It entails the effort of everyone involved for it to work well.  And that includes You.

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Deep within man dwell those slumbering powers; powers that would astonish him, that he never dreamed of possessing; forces that would revolutionize his life if aroused and put into action. Orison Marden

When we chose to focus on what emotions we desire to experience, as opposed to, what we want to be, do or have materially, we instantly align heart and mind and create inner harmony, and we accomplish things with ease. We are in the zone.

The opposite however, is also true; when we choose to focus on what we don’t want to happen…What could go wrong or only on want we want materially, we create misalignment between heart and mind, which causes imbalance and internal conflict which we experience first as emotional discomfort but if not corrected we will eventually experience as physical dis-ease.

This inner state of harmony or conflict we experience as emotions and feelings, we project through our actions into external experiences. Our life experiences always reflect our inner state as created by our choice of focus.

Whenever we experience anger, worry, disappointments, frustration or any other (negative) unpleasant emotions it’s always the result of misalignment between heart and mind.

Again the opposite is equally true; whenever we experience peace, gratitude, joy, or love or any other (positive) pleasant emotions it’s always the result of alignment between heart and mind.

So, how do we realign?

How do we use our focus to create more of the emotions we desire?

How do we restore harmony and balance in all areas of our lives?

How do we use our emotions as an action guide for creating more of the experiences we desire?

It seems reasonable to the Mind to begin at the beginning, so we start by choosing our focus, but the Heart must be evenly yoked if we are to create alignment, so must also choose to feel all of our emotions and judge them not. Once we have clarified our focus and we have unified our emotions we are ready to generate actions from a place of balance, which means we will be able to experience all that we desire with ease.

Well, there you have it… a short version of how we can use our focus and emotional feedback to Elevate our life experience to the level of wholeness or oneness.

You may or may not agree, but if you can just image how simple your life could be if it’s indeed as simple as we’ve presented.

Can you imagine how great this new life of co-creating by using your heart and mind would feel?

Can you image the Love, Joy and Gratitude you’d experience in each and every moment?

All meaningful and lasting change starts first in your imagination and then works its way out. Imagination is more important than knowledge. – Albert Einstein

If you can even image it… then for just this one moment at least you and I are lifted together to a higher place which exists within us… and as a result WE ARE ETERNALLY ONE!

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Deep listening is miraculous for both listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open-hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our spirits expand.  ~Sue Patton Thoele~

Everyone has a story to tell. However, not everyone may be willing to listen. Sometimes, we are amazed – in an unpleasant way – over the fact that we have not been paying attention to the one speaking to us.

At some point along the story, our mind has wandered off, and we only drift back to reality when suddenly asked, “Are you still listening?”

That would be most unfortunate, since next to our visual skills, our ability to listen allows us to reap various benefits. If we listen to our mentor as he shares with us useful thoughts on life, we become good apprentices.

If we listen to our professor as he lectures about the day’s lesson, we become good students. If we listen to our boss as he explains the rationale of the company’s recent policy, we become good employees.

If we listen to our parents as they advise us regarding career choices, we become good sons/daughters. If we listen to a friend in dire need of unloading his troubles, we become good friends.

In short, listening is vital in developing good human relationships.

To maximize our listening capability, here are a few tips.

Focus.

It is but a single word, but its message conveys far more. Being focused means paying attention, and a lot of it at that. It means temporarily forgetting about other matters of consequence and lending a few minutes of your time to hear someone speak his mind out. It means giving interest to whatever it is that the speaker might want to say. It is taking his words seriously into consideration in whatever decision we are to make. It is placing his story in the context of his emotions, and trying to understand him within the events occurring in his life.

Watch out for non-verbal cues.

The message need not always lie on the words, but also in movements that the speaker makes. If we also pay good attention to the speaker’s eyes, facial expressions, and gestures, we will be able to receive the message in totality. Moreover, if the speaker realizes that we are sincerely listening, we are boosting his confidence.

Be sensitive.

A good measure of sensitivity is also essential to maintain enthusiasm in the part of the person speaking. If the person is at the peak of his emotions, do not interrupt. After all, if someone is extremely angry or anguished, it will be a form of catharsis to remain patient until he has calmed down. Unless the person is already causing bodily harm, it will do him well to let him be purged of his bad feelings.

Show unconditional openness.

We may not always agree with what someone has to say, but being there to listen may be the least we can offer. While we may have different opinions about several issues, keeping our horizons wide is a healthy attitude. With these perspectives in listening, we become open to a world of unlimited learning and diverse experiences.

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With January nearing it’s end and Valentine’s Day, rapidly approaching, we would like to share some of our favorite romantic flirting tips with you.

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It is rather difficult to be romantic without first flirting.

What exactly is flirting and how can you adapt some flirting into your own romantic moods and play? To begin, you don’t want to be too aggressive. Start with very friendly gestures and once you have gotten those moves down, and then go for the romantic flirting!

Flirting is a frame of mind:

• Be self-confident and do not be afraid to take risks.
• Be enthusiastic about romance and be positive!

Start a sexy conversation:

• Start with a simple, opening line by saying hello.
• Talk about anything at all, whatever will get the romance going.

Enjoy yourself and have fun:
• Be playful, light-hearted and above all, be spontaneous.
• Show that you can be vulnerable.

Make good use of all props:

• Always use a prop.
• Props will get the conversation started naturally. They encourage conversation and others will want to start talking to you.
• Great props are: pets, children, great jewelry, a wonderful scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite sports team’s emblem, an interesting book or magazine.

Play host:

• Take the lead by taking on the role of host.
• Do not be the passive person in waiting, but rather the lead.

Introduce yourself first:

• Move closer to the person you want to meet and introduce yourself confidently!

Listen-up:

• Everyone loves to be heard and when you are a good listener your partner will be drawn to you.

Make bold eye contact:

• Look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then look away. You don’t want to stare!

Pay a genuine compliment:

• Your partner will be pleased and will warm up to you more. Show a beautiful smile:
• You will look so much more approachable. Everyone is attracted to a genuine and heartfelt, smile.

So there you go! These are all ground-breakers when wanting to approach someone with romance. We must always be mindful of the fundamentals. When we just dive right in, unexpected, we can turn our loved one off.

Go slow, a step at a time and feeling confident, approach with your best romance moves.

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By entering into marriage, we take a great risk. We place our very selves… our own intimacy… into the hands of another, who, like us, is beset with defects.

A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. -Dave Meurer

Marriage, however, is a vocation; our specific pathway to Heaven.

It’s the preeminent way we are meant to Love and serve God on this earth. Its purpose goes beyond our capabilities: to nurture and protect human Love, and to unleash it on the world.

Therefore, Love for one’s spouse has to be shown in tangible, practical ways.

Your Wife

One of your wife’s greatest needs is for you to be her partner and teammate, as opposed to the roles you may be more inclined to fill: coach,  boss, referee, babysitter or “temp”.

Compliment your wife in person and behind her back. Let her know with very specific and sincere examples how much you admire her and her work inside and outside of the home. Let others know it, too, whether in her presence (like at social gatherings) or outside it (like work). You want to make it apparent to her that you notice and appreciate her  every effort, and apparent to others that… ” This man really loves his wife!”

Don’t teach your wife to nag or sulk. Yes, you read it right. You do this when you don’t pay undivided attention to her words and ideas. A woman detests having to force her way into her husband’s mind and heart; and when faced with that task, she will likely keep things bottled up until she has to explode. Unthinking males refer to this as “nagging”.

Therefore, recognize that TV, newspapers, magazines, mail, hobbies, etc. are your mortal enemies when you get home from work. Avoid them, go straight to your wife, and with eye-to-eye contact, listen to her tell you how her day has gone. Better yet, take the initiative and ask her how she’s doing at least once a week – and give her all the time and attention she needs to tell you.

Don’t try to explain or fix your wife’s hurts. She usually only wants your understanding and empathy not solutions to her problems. Do not trivialize her concerns.

Help with menial tasks around the house. It can be a form of pride to think that these jobs are beneath you. One helpful and challenging suggestion is to perform the task that either you or your wife detests the most. Doing either one will please her greatly.

The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes. -Amy Grant

Your Husband

Don’t expect him to be perfect. It’s to be hoped that the above points will have reminded him that he’s not perfect, and that he needs to work hard to fulfill his commitment of love in marriage. Make sure you let him know, in concrete ways, that you deeply appreciate his struggle – it is very important to a man that his best and honest efforts are treasured.

Do not expect him to be like a woman. He thinks, acts, and reacts differently than you do; and believe it or not, this is a good thing! Do not fall for the contemporary caricature of men as testosterone-poisoned little boys in adult bodies incapable of commitment, personal relationships,  or any other useful societal purpose. His maleness is there for you as a complement to your femininity…in other words…as strength for you.

Lavish tenderness and care on your husband. Little matters more to a married man than the certainty of his wife’s deep affection and care for him. It’s his fixed point amid the chaotic demands of his professional life. You will express this best not by doing occasional, extraordinary things, but by unrelenting acts of simple tenderness on a regular basis.

Loving unconditionally and always putting your husband or wife first and meeting their needs is the surest way to have and keep a happy relationship.

If each of you takes these matters to Heart,  you will find that Loving your spouse unconditionally is the most romantic thing you can do… because you will be living Love where it really counts: in the ordinary things, day by day by day.

In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer. -H. Norman Wright and Gary J. Oliver

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It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.~e.e. cummings~

Our first and last, thereby our longest lasting relationship is the one to Self. All other relationships are affected, for better or worse, by this primary relationship. If we are not in good relation to ourselves it appears us, that everyone and everything else is to blame as far as were concerned.

Many adults (and as a result many kids) have difficulty with self esteem and poor body image. It seems that many of us lack a clear understanding of the importance of our relationship to self which means we are ill equipped to help our child. Many adults continue to blame everything and everyone around them for their lack of progress toward the fulfillment of their life dreams.

If you haven’t learned how to value yourself, it’s time you do.

Whether you’re a manager, a trainee, an actor, or a postman, you won’t be able to interact with your employers, employees, and subordinates effectively and in perfect harmony if you don’t have a great relationship with yourself first.

Be Honest about What You See in the Mirror

Take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Be honest as you list to yourself your strengths and weaknesses. Know what you really want in life and be clear about what you don’t want, as well. Your life won’t be able to take the directions it needs to take as long as you keep lying to yourself.

Don’t Be Shy about Giving Yourself a Pat on the Back

If you’ve done something right, that’s certainly nothing to be ashamed of; so go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back. Don’t measure your accomplishments according to the rewards you’ll receive from other people. As long as you’ve done your job well, that should be good enough for you. Learning how to appreciate your own accomplishments will help you appreciate other people’s work better.

Never Stop Improving

The moment you stop working on improving yourself is the moment you should start worrying. There’s no way for you to attain perfection in any aspect of your life or even your character. There will always be room for improvement and it’s for your own good to remember this at all times.

You Are Important to Others If You Believe You’re Important

People will learn to respect you and pay attention to what you’re saying if you prove to them that you’re deserving of such treatment. Naturally, the only way for you to prove that you’re worthy of it is by respecting yourself first.  Only then will you be able to truly show love and respect for others.

You’re not respecting yourself if you allow people to walk all over you. Nobody will pay attention to what you’re saying if you’re not saying anything that’s worth listening to.

Learn How to Forgive Yourself

If you don’t know how to forgive yourself for your mistakes, you’ll unconsciously be adapting the same attitude towards other people. Being a perfectionist is great in some aspects but unreasonable in others.

As long as you’re unable to accept that you’re as human as the rest of the population, you’ll find it harder and harder to accept other people’s mistakes. This will make it difficult for you to get along with others, to say the least.

Be Sensitive

Sensitivity is a talent that you can learn and develop by yourself. Sensitivity will teach you to listen to what’s not being said and to read between the lines. Before you can be sensitive to others, however, you need to learn how to be sensitive to your own wants and needs first.

Learn How to Be Happy with Yourself

Although no man is an island, you should also learn how to be happy just by being yourself and by yourself. Once you learn those things, you’ll realize that you’re having more fun with other people.

Sometimes, it’s easier to appreciate others than appreciate yourself. Sometimes, it’s easy to see the fault in others while it’s difficult to see your faults within.

Finding the perfect balance may be a challenge, but if you wish to work well with the people around you, it’s a challenge that you can overcome. And when you do you’ll know the joy that comes from simply seeking to Be Your Best Self.

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Your Elevated Life = YOU in balance…

In Mind, Body and Spirit.

It’s about heightened awareness of the intimate relationship between you and your life experience.  It about taking personal responsibility for how you experience your life.

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Balancing: Mind-Body-Spirit - Elevating: Self-Health-Wealth

The moment you become  fully aware of the nature of your relationship to this multidimensional experience you call life, you will  not only become ready, willing and able to make the lifestyle changes required to bring about harmonic equilibrium, you will become totally committed, whole and completely to creating Your Elevated Life.

Once harmony and balance are established/restored you become aware of more opportunities and options than were previously known to you. This awareness of new options leads to increased opportunity for new/different
actions. These new actions soon produce new results in your life experience.

Where old “reactions” were triggered by external circumstances and events. Your harmonically balanced new “actions” are triggered by internal awareness and choice of focus. Which is your power…Your greatness is already within you.

YEL Balance

You Out of Balance - You In Balance

Your new heighten awareness, soon begin to create new habits of action. These new habits or this new willingness to act differently will produce a new life experience. The result is you start recognize increased opportunities and you begin to expand your “ability to respond” or in other words, you experience increased personal responsibility. You experience your greatness from within you.

From this elevated awareness it becomes simply a matter of choice. You can choose to use your awareness and your increased ability to respond, to Elevated Your Life above the level of any problems (by use of internal awareness and choice of focus) and into the realm of ever present solutions.

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Ultimately, the reason why love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence.
It results from the profound interdependence we all share with one another. However capable and skillful an individual may be, left alone he or she will not survive. However vigorous and independent one may feel during the most prosperous periods of life, when one is sick or very young or very old, one must depend on the support of others.

Interdependence, of course, is a fundamental law of nature. Not only higher forms of life, but also many of the smallest insects are social beings who, without any religion, law, or education, survive by mutual cooperation based on an innate recognition of their interconnectedness. The most subtle level of material phenomena is also governed by interdependence. In fact, all phenomena—be they from the oceans, the clouds, or the forests that surround us—arise in dependence upon subtle patterns of energy. Without their proper interaction, they dissolve and decay.

It is because our own human existence is so dependent on the help of others that our need for love lies at the very foundation of our existence. Therefore, we need a genuine sense of responsibility and a sincere concern for the welfare of others.

We have to consider what we human beings really are. We are not like machine-made objects. If we were merely mechanical entities, then machines themselves could alleviate all of our suffering and fulfill our needs. However, since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. Instead, we should consider our origins and nature to discover who we are and what it is we require.

The expression of love is also very important at the time of birth. Since the very first thing we do is suck milk from our mothers’ breast, we naturally feel close to her, and she must feel love for us in order to feed us properly; if she feels anger or resentment, her milk may not flow freely. Then there is the critical period of brain development from the time of birth up to at least the age of three or four, during which time loving physical contact is the single most important factor for the normal growth of the child. If the child is not held, hugged, cuddled, or loved, its development will be impaired and its brain will not mature properly.

As children grow older and enter school, their need for support must be met by their teachers. If a teacher not only imparts academic education, but also assumes responsibility for preparing students for life, his or her pupils will feel trust and respect, and what has been taught will leave an indelible impression on their minds. On the other hand, that which is taught by a teacher who does not show true concern for his or her students’ overall well-being will not be retained for long.

Nowadays, many children grow up in unhappy homes. If they do not receive proper affection, in later life they will rarely love their parents and, not infrequently, will find it hard to love others. This is very sad.

In the end, since a child cannot survive without the care of others, love is its most important nourishment. The happiness of childhood, the allaying of the child’s many fears, and the healthy development of its self-confidence all depend directly upon love.

Even when we engage in ordinary conversation in everyday life, if someone speaks with human feeling, we enjoy listening and respond accordingly; the whole conversation becomes interesting, however unimportant the topic may be. On the other hand, if a person speaks coldly or harshly, we feel uneasy and wish for a quick end to the interaction. From the least to the most important event, the affection and respect of others are vital for our happiness.

Recently I met a group of scientists in America who said that the rate of mental illness in their country was quite high—around 12 percent of the population. It became clear during our discussion that the main cause of depression was not a lack of material necessities, but a deprivation of the affection of others. So, as you can see from everything I have written so far, whether or not we are consciously aware of it, from the day we are born the need for human affection is in our very blood. Even if the affection comes from an animal or someone we would normally consider an enemy, both children and adults will naturally gravitate toward it.

I believe that no one is born free of the need for love. And this demonstrates that, although some modern schools of thought seek to do so, human beings cannot be defined as solely physical. No material object—however beautiful or valuable—can make us feel loved, because our deeper identity and true character lie in the subjective nature of the mind.


It is an honor to post this “lesson on efficiency”  written by one of my favorite authors, Eric Butterworth. I hope you will read and enjoy the whole article. But even if you only read and apply the  four tips at the end, I am certain your life will be change for the better. Enjoy!

The desire for self improvement is one of the most important elements in human nature, and the degree to which this exists determines whether a person is really alive, with hope for his future. Certainly, it is true that when any individual reaches a point in life when, due to difficulty or age or indifference, he no longer wants to improve himself, he becomes totally satisfied and just sits and watches life pass by. That person, to all intent and purposes, is already dead. Life means growth. Where there is no growth, there is no life. We use the cliché “growing old” and the fact is, when you stop growing, you are old—something to think about for all of us.

Would you like to do a better job? Would you like to become a more effective person? Would you like to increase your efficiency? Of course you would, or you wouldn’t be listening to my voice [or reading this] today. I’ve counseled many persons whose chief problem is the tendency to make mistakes. I remember one businessman confessing, “I want to do a good job for my firm, but there’s something about me, I somehow never say the right thing at the right time. I put my foot in my mouth every time.” Another man fears that his marriage is breaking up because he always does the wrong thing, even though he doesn’t intend to do this. And a teenager complains that he can’t get the right results from homework, saying, “There’s something wrong with me, and it always seems to come out.” Well, he has indirectly pointed out the problem. We make mistakes because of gross inefficiencies in our thought processes. So, we must work to change our thoughts. I say that often: “You can change your life by altering your thoughts.”

If you have grown up with a self-limiting view of yourself and have repeatedly said, “I always goof,” then you must begin to change. You must know that you are a Spiritual Being, endowed with infinite possibilities for success and accomplishment. You are capable, self-confident, orderly, efficient. You are a Child of God. Know that you do everything at hand with ease and promptness and efficiency, that you always have that potential within you to enter into a new experience and a new level of consciousness.

The key to our problems and mistakes lies not in conscious beliefs, but in subconscious patterns of confusion. Prayer and meditation, worked with in the right way over a period of time, can erase inner confusion and open out a way for the expression of Divine Order and natural abilities flowing easily forth. When we really seek to know ourselves in our depths, through the prayer of self-realization, we can build our lives on the foundation of Truth.

Second Timothy, the second chapter, 15th verse, says, “Study to show thy self approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of Truth.” I’ve never felt it sufficient to say, “I’m just going to put it in God’s hands, and He’ll take care of it for me.” I say, if you want to give a better talk or sell more merchandise or make more money, then pray more, certainly, but also work harder, study and prepare. Do your best and leave the rest. We do things right when we, ourselves, are right, and when we bring to this rightness the illumination of Spirit. A typical person needs to pray more, to believe in his Inner Power, and to be guided and sustained. In many instances, however, the need is for good old hard work. The great story here is about the man who asked his boss for a raise. He didn’t receive a reply until his next paycheck. The amount of the check was the same, but in the envelope was this little note: “Your new salary will become effective when you do.”

Efficiency also means getting the most for the least. The really “tuned in” person dedicates himself to Oneness with the Activity of God, and he reaches toward “one hundred percent efficiency.” Those who fail, do so from using less than their Inner Potential. It is probably true that the average person uses only about twelve out of the one hundred tools of his perfect mental equipment. Figures tell us that production workers usually perform at about seventy percent of efficiency, while office workers usually level off at about thirty or forty percent—possibly, even those figures are high.

Efficiency has to do with the ability of making capital, even out of misfortune. You may recall the story of Sarah Bernhardt, who was injured in an accident, and had her leg amputated. But she didn’t whine and declare that her career was over. She began to work immediately on a play in the role of a one-legged soldier. The greatest efficiency is expressed when you look for guidance to see things objectively and to recognize the way that is right and good.

A housefly, trying to reach the outdoors through a windowpane, just can’t seem to understand why it can’t get right to its goal. But you should be more intelligent than that. A person may seek the demonstration of prosperity and may attempt to instruct God, as it were, to increase his salary, but his demonstration may well appear in quite an unexpected way. It may come through a new job, through the sale of property, or simply a new way to get more mileage out of present income. The children of Israel were led by Moses out of captivity into the wilderness, where they had to spend forty years, but in this time, they conquered the desert. Thus, they learned how to conquer themselves, in preparation for the Promised Land. The mistakes we make and the limiting experiences that are our lot are really our opportunities to study for improvement. In other words, it’s not really so bad to make mistakes; it is important to use them as inspiration toward an honest effort to improve. Our lives are constantly being built by what we do and how we act today. What we will be tomorrow, and from now on, takes no heed of how we feel today or how inefficient we happen to be at the moment. What really counts is how we profit from these stages in our growth and what we do to change things.

Here is a simple step-by-step technique that could well be helpful in directing you to build an efficient life:

First: Begin your day, every day, with a time of meditation. This is a must! At some time after rising, take time to be still and identify yourself in Oneness with the Infinite Creative Source. You may have to get up a little earlier, but this will be the most important time of your day, a time to get still and to identify yourself with Oneness and to get yourself in tune with the Creative Flow [of God]. Tremendous things may flow forth into you, and into your life, as a result of this commitment.

Second: Make a mental outline of the work that you have before you, the tasks for the day, and begin to work on them, immediately. Remember the statement, “Do it now.” “Do it now!” This day’s imperative, left undone, becomes tomorrow’s regret. These things become tremendous burdens. You will find genuine satisfaction in mentally crossing off each task as it is completed. It is an orderly way to deal with life.

Third: Be non-resistant to change and interruption. Deal with these situations one-by-one, and as quickly as possible, knowing that somehow there is good in them. Sometimes, I may be busy preparing a talk or an article and along comes an interruption—a knock on the door, the buzzer rings, the telephone—and I’m tempted to be very resistant. And, I must confess, sometimes I indulge a little bit in the feeling of resistance and resentment. But I’ve come to realize that if I just go along with it, out of that interruption, I may get an answer to a “dead-end” that has been puzzling me for some time—an idea, a creative thought that is just the very thing to make the work that I was doing, and that I was interrupted in doing, that much more effective. The delay, then, becomes the channel through which the idea comes. It’s so important to be open and receptive to this type of flowing forth of Creative Mind, and to be nonresistant to change and interruption.

Fourth: When it seems that you have more to do than you feel is within your strength, or within the time allotted to you, relax with quiet deliberation. Don’t give in to the pressure of time. Know that you can do what you need to do in the Eternal Process of Timelessness. Anyone who allows himself to become tense and irritable simply short-circuits his own power by breaking contact with the Divine Source of Energy. So arrange your tasks in order of importance and proceed in the knowledge that you always have the power and the time to do the things that need to be done by you…and to do them well.

Finally: Make an occasional checkup of your work, your work habits. Are you making the wisest use of time? Always be willing to accept a better use of your abilities, a better way, if it serves your purpose. God gives us all, each and every one of us, twenty-four hours a day; it is our privilege, and our responsibility, to direct our limitless energies toward accomplishment.

© Eric Butterworth

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Well, I’m in Love with Love so I have decided to feature an article that was written by a man whose words changed my life.  In his book, Spiritual Economics, Eric Butterworth, the author, introduced me to the concept of pure potentiality and his thoughts changed my perception of everything and raised my conscious awareness.  Reading his book, not only for the first time but also many times thereafter, has become my foundation in terms of what really matters.

Unconditional Love is neither physical, nor romantic…it is an acceptance of all that is…and all there is…is Love.  Anyone who is experiencing the power of Love is always free and always growing.  Without Love and nurturing we cannot grow into our full potential.  This article by Eric Butterworth and the short story by an unknown author demonstrate Unconditional Love and how the experience of engaging in and the practicing of Unconditional Love can change lives one by one.  A good place to start is with the children.  As school begins, my wish is that all children may experience Unconditional Love from special teachers who’s Hearts are filled with nothing but that.  For some children, school is the only place where they feel safe and have the opportunity to feel anything.  Thanks to all of the parents, teachers, relatives, and advocates who champion the needs of children…the children are “the least of these.” Unconditional Love can change our world.

Love: The One Creative Force ~Eric Butterworth~

A college professor had his sociology class go into the Baltimore slums to get case histories of 200 young boys. They were asked to write an evaluation of each boy’s future. In every case the students wrote, “He hasn’t got a chance.” Twenty-five years later another sociology professor came across the earlier study. He had his students follow up on the project to see what had happened to these boys. With the exception of 20 boys who had moved away or died, the students learned that 176 of the remaining 180 had achieved more than ordinary success as lawyers, doctors and businessmen.  The Professor was astounded and decided to pursue the matter further.  Fortunately, all the men were in the area and he was able to ask each one, “How do you account for your success?”  In each case the reply came with feeling, “Thee was a teacher.”  The teacher was still alive, so he sought her out and asked her what magic formula she had used to pull these boys our of the slums into successful achievement?  Her eyes sparkled and her lips broke into a gentle smile.  “It’s really very simple,” she said, “I loved those boys.”  This is an example of how she might have loved…unconditionally.

A Special Teacher…Practicing Unconditional Love

Jean Thompson stood in front of her fifth-grade class on that first day of school in the fall and told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her pupils, saying she loved each of them the same, that she would treat them all the same.  But that was impossible for there in front of her, slumped in his third row seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.  Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed he didn’t play well with the other children, that his clothes were unkempt and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy was unpleasant. It got to the point during the first few months that she would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X’s and then highlighting the “F” at the top of the paper.

Because Teddy was a sullen little boy, no one else seemed to enjoy him either. At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child’s records and delayed Teddy’s until last. She opened his file, and found a surprise.  His first-grade teacher had written, and I quote, “Teddy is a bright, inquisitive child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners. He is a joy to be around.”  His second-grade teacher had penned, “Teddy is an excellent student, well-liked by all his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle.”  His third-grade teacher had noted, “Teddy continues to work hard but his mother’s death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn’t show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken.”  Teddy’s fourth-grade teacher had commented, “Teddy is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and often falls asleep in class. He is tardy and could become a more serious problem.”

By now Mrs. Thompson realized the extent of the problem, but Christmas was coming fast. It was all she could do, with the school play and all, until the day before the holidays began and she was suddenly forced to focus again on Teddy Stoddard.  Her children brought her presents, all in beautiful ribbon and bright paper, except Teddy’s, which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper of a grocery bag.  Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of cologne. She stifled the children’s laughter as she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume behind her wrist.  Teddy Stoddard stayed behind after class just long enough to say, “Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my mom used to.”

After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching Reading, Writing, & Speaking. Instead, she began to teach Children. Jean Thompson paid very particular attention to the one called “Teddy.” As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. On the days when there would be an important test, Mrs. Thompson would remember that cologne.  By the end of the year he had become one of the highest achieving children in the class and, well, he had also somewhat become, the “pet” of that teacher who had once vowed to love all of her children exactly the same.

A year later, she found a note under her door from Teddy, telling her that of all the teachers he’d had in elementary school, she was his favorite.  Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still his favorite teacher of all time.  Four years later, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he’d stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would graduate from college with the highest of honors.  He assured Mrs. Thompson she was still his favorite teacher.

Four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still his favorite teacher but that now, his name was a little longer. The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.

The story doesn’t end there. For there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he’d met this girl and was to be married.  He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the pew usually reserved for the mother of the groom.  And on that special day, Jean Thompson wore that bracelet, the one with the rhinestones missing.  And on that special day, Jean Thompson smelled the way Teddy remembered his mother smelling on their last Christmas together.

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